Have you started noticing a weird change in your partner? Has there been a shift in how they behave around you? When was the last time the two of you discussed any future plans together? If the answer to the first two is a yes, and you can’t even remember the answer for the last one, then there is a chance you might be a victim of ‘Delicate Dumping’.
What is ‘Delicate Dumping’?
‘Delicate Dumping’ is a break-up trend that has been getting more and more popular over the past few months. It’s a toxic way of leaving a relationship without looking like the bad guy. It’s when one partner stops investing time and effort into the relationship and slowly starts retreating to avoid difficult conversations. The person would still be committed to the relationship but will stop putting any efforts.
According to experts, people who are not big on confrontations and lack emotional maturity tend to steer towards this method of ending a relationship. The way it works it is it starts making the other person question their place in their partner’s life and eventually break up, thus absolving the toxic one from being confronted.
How to recognise the signs of ‘Delicate Dumping’?
It could be hurtful and confusing to suddenly realise your partner is not as invested into the relationship as you are. The fault lies with the person behaving in the toxic way and not you. The way to recognise whether or not you’re being ‘delicately dumped’ is to carefully pay attention to the way your partner is behaving with you. There would be differences in the way they are around you or the way they speak with you. Another solid sign is when they stop making long-term plans with you, like plans for a future trip or attending a future event together.
What to do if the signs are there?
Take time out to properly process the way you feel about the relationship and how your partner is treating you. If you start noticing the signs, trust your intuition and go with what your heart tells you. The best way to go about it is to confront your partner and have the conversation they might be trying to avoid. Reach out to a professional for assistance if things start to feel overwhelming.
The most important thing to remember is that it’s not your fault. You shouldn’t have to settle for someone who can’t even respect you enough to have a proper conversation about your relationship with them.